by Stephanie Zawada
"What happened to men?" is a common topic amongst today's women. With an flood of goofy television fathers, from sports writer Raymond Barone to stay-at-home Robby Ray Cyrus, portrayed as the societal norm, young men-liberal or conservative, religious or agnostic, 20 or 30-have grown up subconsciously exposed to the dogma that men are the less capable, less intelligent sex. There exists a kaleidoscope of female empowerment clubs and movements on today's higher ed campuses, and men are expected to partake in and support feminist events or risk being considered the campus cavemen.With a constant focus on the oppression of women in society, young men, for the most part, have taken a rain check on maturity. And who can blame them? Today's male has been given the boot by society, and they've turned the other way, only looking back every once and a while to wonder "Do I even have a role in the world?"The result? Today's dating world.It has been ingrained in the minds of our male contemporaries that women get what they want and are all-powerful and self-reliant in the process. On top of that, anything a young man might say or do, from "Your skirt is pretty" to holding the door, can be considered offensive by someone somewhere. The amount of risk undertaken for a simple compliment, let alone sending flowers or inviting a girl to dinner, is just not worth it. This largely explains why most young men are averse to and cautious about being gentlemanly until they have known a girl for awhile. Forget being comfortable; it's great to know that you won't file charges against him for picking up your pencil.If we ever want to see real men again, it is you and I who must begin the cultural restoration, in a local way. The majority of us young women do not see marriage in the near future, and some of us will never be called to that vocation. Most of us won't be raising little gentlemen for awhile!What can you and I do, though, in hopes of getting society back on track, since waging a male empowerment war is certainly not the answer? Be cultivators, nurturers, and protectors of true friendship.Religious differences aside, Venerable Bishop Fulton Sheen once said, "When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her. The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women.” Notice how Sheen did not specify that the woman discussed must be the man's wife? Think of how Mother Teresa, while remaining a world leader in her own right, always lent her support and offered her works for the promotion of Blessed John Paul II's ministry. There is a true harmony to be achieved via the work of our single male counterparts and our own.Young ladies, friendship allows men to take a deep breath: they don't have to worry about wooing you. In friendship, we grow in silence, learning from one another, challenging and reevaluating our opinions, willing the best for each other, answering those 11 p.m. phone calls, and, eventually, loving one another. Whether that love transforms to incorporate the romantic, only time will tell, but you will have a treasure trove of male friends much more capable of empathizing with and supporting women from "I do", through the birth of each child, and during the trials and tribulations work, family, health, and life will certainly bring.Thanks to today's serial dating epidemic, the overwhelming majority of young men have not formed such friendships. As a whole, they understand woman as the physical being, but have no clue understanding women as human persons who process and identify with life in some very different ways.The more encouragement you offer your male friends in becoming better men, the more effectively you will shape your world in a "counter cultured" way. Today's men are unsure of themselves, and while I do not advocate that you chase after men, I do encourage you to initiate friendships with your male colleagues, just as you do with the girls you work alongside. I'm asking you to change your attitude at work, at school, and at home. Be an unwavering rock of support for the evolution towards good for your friends, and keep peace in your relationships so as to offer your counterpart an atmosphere of joy and tranquility.As John Bosco, who dedicated his life to seeing that the destitute young men of Turin, Catholic and non-Catholic alike, received the opportunity to live a better life, once reflected: "It is not enough, that we love the boys, but they must feel and know too, that they are loved".The more support you provide for your male counterparts in cultivating their own individual manhood, the better fathers and husbands they will make for you or another girl. You'll be taking back America and Western Civilization, one guy at a time.
by Anna Maria Hoffman
Nowadays, it seems like there are two types of young men who exist in our dating culture: young men who hesitate to pursue young women they want to be with and young men who think they have struck gold when they haven't. The latter type are young men who are too forward and persistent, yet are blinded by the reality that the young women they are trying to court are actually not interested in them.
Ladies, I think we can all relate to this type of situation, in which a young man won't stop asking you out to dinner and mistakes your friendliness to mean you are interested in him too. Sometimes, these types of situations can also unfortunately stoop to a disrespectful, abusive level, in which the young man is so infatuated with you that he acts like a boyfriend immediately. He forces you to hold hands with him, he won't stop hugging you in a romantic way, and he tries to plant a kiss on your cheek, or something more serious. It's the nightmare we all fear, and I hope none of you ladies have had the misfortune of being trapped in such an unpleasant situation.
So you're probably wondering, what should I do if I am stuck in this situation? Politely and bluntly tell him you're not interested. Men truly appreciate when women are honest and upfront with them, because men prefer simple, direct communication. Don't just tell your overly persistent male friend or acquaintance that "You're busy" or "I'll let you know later," unless if the feeling is mutual, of course. Why? He will assume right off the bat that you are just playing hard to get, when, in reality, you know deep in your heart that nothing beyond friendship would ever be possible.
Also, if you respond with either of those two expressions, you will lead him on and give him the false impression that you are also interested in him. Ladies, it is tempting to respond with one of those expressions, because you might fear upsetting the guy or fear he will make life worse for you if you tell him "no." However, those reactions are unlikely to occur, unless if he is struggling with some severe emotional problems. Remember, being blunt, yet polite, will help you overcome this type of situation. You don't deserve to be trapped in a situation where the guy is happy but you are miserable. However, if you politely tell the guy "no," but he still persists and the situation becomes abusive (verbal or physical), cut off all communication with him. Block his phone number, remove him from your social media outlets, and distance yourself away from him faster than you can say Timbuktu. You are only protecting yourself, your health and safety, by doing this.
Also, if you're a young man reading this and find yourself pursuing a young woman who is not interested in you, here's my advice: please respect her wishes to not go on a date with you. No matter how persistent you are, she will still not be interested in you. Respect her wishes and move on. Although women do appreciate men who know how to lead and make the initiative, women dislike it when men, who they are not interested in, are overly persistent and do not respect their true sentiments. Just because one woman is not interested in you doesn't mean a woman will never be interested in you. Truly, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Ladies, remember this: always be direct and honest with guys you are not interested in who are pursuing you. As they say, honesty is the best policy. You do not deserve to be trapped in a situation where a guy you are not interested in won't stop showering you with flirty comments and doesn't realize that his unnecessary chase will only spoil his spirits. Your wishes deserve to be respected immensely.Also, if you are on good terms with him, don't burn bridges by ending your friendship with him. A good friendship shouldn't be spoiled if more than friendship is not a possibility between the two of you. In addition, if you want to avoid getting trapped in more situations like this, be conscientious of how you communicate with young men. Being overly friendly with a guy you have no interest in can most likely mislead him into thinking you are interested in him. Also, the same goes with playful teasing. However, keep in mind that you don't need to dramatically change who you are to avoid these types of situations. Just be conscientious of what kinds of signals you might be sending to young men around you. Gentlemen, remember this. Just because a woman is nice and friendly to you does not necessarily mean she is also interested in being more than friends. Get to know women you are interested in before you make a move, because any woman I know will tell you that being approached for a dinner date after knowing each other for one week is off putting. Also, if a woman respectfully tells you that she's not interested, appreciate her honesty. If she wants to remain friends with you, remain friends with her. She can help you with future situations as a supportive friend or might even introduce you to a woman who will be interested in you too. You never know.
These days, our culture is very hypersexualized, constantly presenting an overly sexualized, aggressive woman as the only desirable image a man should have of a woman. This is largely the result of radical feminism being introduced in our society decades ago, which has told women that they must adopt an aggressive, mannish, and unpleasant demeanor to get ahead and "better" attract men.
As a result, our society has lower standards, and sadly, our country's dating culture thrives off of lower standards as well. That explains why the hookup culture is on the rise on college campuses and that dating with marriage in mind is generally viewed by many college students as undesirable and "restrictive."
Given these trends, we often see many young men in our dating culture pursue young women who are not interested in a long-term relationship, who are aggressive, and who unfortunately assume that dressing in a hypersexual way will earn them respect and love from young men. As a result, we see many of these young men and women regret their decisions and become emotionally and psychologically hurt. We also see much of that emotional, psychological hurt resulting from young men, and now a larger portion of young women
, driving the hookup culture, both sadly initiating hookups that lead to nothing but ruin, not fulfillment.
Nevertheless, there is a trend of many young men being hesitant about approaching young women who choose to be counter cultural. These young women are counter cultural, because they choose to champion modesty, desire life-long monogamy through marriage, and refuse to engage in the emotionally scarring hookup culture that objectifies women. Deep down inside, these young men, especially those who want to eventually get married one day, want to be with these kinds of young women. They truly see these young women as women who would make for great wives and mothers. But we see many of them instead approaching young women who are the exact opposite of the young women they truly want to be with in the long run.
Based on what my male friends have said about this trend, many of these young men hesitate about going for counter cultural young women, because they fear rejection, are afraid of ruining their friendships with these young women, or fear being trapped in the friend zone for good. Also, our culture's depiction of what young women must be--aggressive and hypersexual--is another reason why many young men might be afraid to approach counter cultural young women. They might assume that every young woman they meet match up with our culture's depiction of femininity and are thus unapproachable.
For our nation's dating culture to improve, radical feminism's influence must be minimized, good dating standards must be introduced in the home and passed onto the next generation, and more young men should courageously approach young women who they genuinely want to be with for life. Our dating culture 's standards will only improve if people decide to strengthen them and if more parents teach their children the importance of self-respect and dating with long-term commitment, and eventually marriage, in mind.
by Gabriella Hoffman
“I met a guy. I made a sandwich. I started a blog. And I enraged feminists everywhere,” writes
NY Post reporter Stephanie Smith.
Smith’s blog, 300sandwiches.com
, has garnered praise and ire alike. A woman is making her boyfriend sandwiches? She’s submitting to patriarchy? Queue the moral outrage!
Smith explains the purpose behind 300sandwiches:
On Wednesday, I wrote in The Post about how my boyfriend Eric’s joke remark after making him a snack — “Honey, you’re 300 sandwiches away from an engagement ring!” — inspired me to do just that and chronicle the project on a Web site, 300sandwiches.com.
The blog started as a lighthearted joke between boyfriend and girlfriend. I presented it to the world because I thought at least one person would find the humor in the idea of sandwiches for an engagement ring.
This project is not about me promoting myself as some gourmet chef, nor a desperate plot to win Eric’s love — or a movie deal or Internet fame.
It’s an idea that made us laugh and made for a good, lighthearted blog with some drool- inducing sandwich photos.
When one peruses the blog, they will stumble upon photos of delicious creations and accompanying sandwich recipes. (My personal favorites are “Weeklong Effort” Beef Brisket Sandwich, “Baked at Halftime” Fried Green Tomato BLT, “Michael White’s Forbidden” Mortadella and Ricotta Cheese on Focaccia, and “Three P’s” Prosciutto, Parmesan and Pesto Croissant sandwich.) What’s not to like about photos of delicious food and witty commentary about life? Many on the Left–particularly radical feminists
–have condemned her efforts, citing “sexism” and “oppression” a la patriarchy. They think every man is a pig who boasts a primitive “make-me-a-sandwich” mentality. (Men deserve respect too, radical feminists.)
Today’s third-wave feminists echo many of the claims made by Betty Friedan. In her Feminist Mystique
, Friedan wrote
: "... the women who 'adjust' as housewives, who grow up wanting to be 'just a housewife,' are in as much danger as the millions who walked to their own death in the concentration camps—and the millions more who refused to believe that the concentration camps existed."
Making sandwiches for a man encourages “archaic gender roles
” and shapes the “marriage industrial complex”
? Goodness gracious…CALM DOWN.
Stephanie Smith willingly chose to make her boyfriend sandwiches. He didn’t chain her to the kitchen or hold her at gun point against her will. She made a CHOICE (choice for me, not for thee?) to play off an inside joke and decided to make sandwiches. Get a grip, feminists.
For a movement rooted in so-called “choice,” third-wave feminism continues to perpetrate the status quo by coercing women into lifelong servitude of paternalistic government coupled with allegiance to groupthink. They frown upon women owning firearms, choosing life, pursuing marriage and later becoming mothers. They especially despise individuality and are eager to redefine human nature. More importantly, they hate female pursuit of happiness.
This endless scaremongering from radical feminists should leave one feeling uneasy. Instead of denouncing sandwich-making, people should be outraged over the ever-growing debt, implementation of ObamaCare, Common Core, and similar big government programs. Please spare us your hatred of the American way of life.
Sandwich-making isn’t evil; subservience to government is.
Like many young women today, I am uncomfortable associating myself with the mainstream women’s movement. Radical feminists claim to have a monopoly on our gender and work tirelessly to squash any dissent. For a group that preaches so-called tolerance, they see subservience to paternalistic government as the answer to any problem.
Much to the dismay of radical feminists, a recent poll shows that 72 percent of Americans reject the feminist
label. Why would any woman with self-respect be a champion of “reproductive rights,” biological equality, and female victimhood? We care about many issues, and don’t want to be defined by our “lady parts
Unfortunately most young women are coaxed into thinking cradle-to-grave government dependency is elevating as we saw with “Life of Julia
” in the 2012 election.
The fairer sex desires an alternative to the status quo. One answer lies in “freedom feminism.”
AEI fellow Christina Hoff Sommers wrote Freedom Feminism: Its Surprising History and Why It Matters Today
to debunk the assertion that women behave collectively and are self-hating.
Her book notes, “Freedom feminism stands for the moral, social, and legal equality of the sexes—and the freedom of women to employ their equal status to pursue happiness in their own distinctive ways. Freedom feminism is not at war with femininity or masculinity, it does not seek to bring down capitalism, and it does not view men and women as warring tribes…Put simply, freedom feminism affirms for women what it affirms for everyone: dignity, fairness, and liberty.” (6-8)
“Freedom feminism” encourages women to pursue happiness in their own right–whether it be a full-time career, marriage, and/or childbearing. In contrast, radical feminism heavily frowns upon marriage, the right-to-life, biological differences, and free enterprise.
Hoff Sommers details two strains of feminism: egalitarian feminism and maternal feminism. Egalitarian feminism espouses the idea that “men and women are essentially identical” with “secular, universalist, progressive” undertones (11). Alternatively, maternal feminism stresses that “men and women are different but equal” and traditionalist, religious, and family-centered undertones (11). The latter, Hoff Sommers writes, is more popular and influential.
Radical feminism promises young women a life of liberation, but fails to deliver happiness.
Don’t shy away from pursuing happiness in your own right. Regardless of what radical feminists say, don’t be afraid to consider marriage and raising a family. Having a career is important and self-fulfilling, but exploring happiness beyond the office can be even more rewarding.
by Claire Chretien
HelloFlo is an organization that sends women feminine hygiene product care packages timed with their menstrual cycle. It seems a little frivolous, but hey, care packages are always a treat.
HelloFlo’s new ad, "The Camp Gyno," is making its rounds on BuzzFeed
, and the Facebook newsfeeds of allegedly sexually liberated college kids (mostly guys, ironically). BuzzFeed celebrated "The Camp Gyno" ad as “brilliant,” and Jezebel proclaimed that it is the “best menstrual marketing ever.”
Upon viewing this revolting ad, which lasts a painful one minute and 47 seconds, I felt a strong urge to go to confession and say about 15 Hail Marys for the future of American culture. This a feeling I’ve only gotten a few other times in my life: when an Obama ad compared voting for the first time to losing your virginity
, when Nancy Pelosi invoked her Catholic faith to defend late-term abortion as “sacred,”
and when some “Catholic” people I know changed their profile pictures to red equal signs in hopes of showing everyone that they’re cool and not like those other Catholics, the "bigoted" ones who stand by the Church’s beautiful teachings about human sexuality.
So what’s wrong with "The Camp Gyno" ad?
It features a young girl, who looks no older than twelve or thirteen, holding a doll in front of her friends as blood squirts from it. She compares herself to Joan of Arc. More specifically, she compares herself to Joan and her fellow campers’ genitals to “the arc.” Campers receive care packages that are “like Santa for your vagina.”
Most alarming is that fact that this young girl’s parents allowed her to participate in such a coarse, crass commercial.
The entire ad is tasteless and did a disservice to HelloFlo. Their business went from a nice idea to a vulgar viral video. This kind of filth is degrading to women, particularly young women and the poor children who star in this video.
It’s possible to talk about the birds and the bees without being so pathetically crude. Groups like HelloFlo should try it sometime.
In today's society, young, decent men are rare to find. This problem has become so serious that A.J. Kieling even wrote a book about it called Where Have All the Good Men Gone? in 2008.
When we think of young men today, we think of metrosexual, hipster, and unmanly guys who can't bait a hook, skin a buck, and dress like rugged men. It seems as though manly men are a symbol of the past and now are officially gone.
Ladies, yes, there are unfortunately fewer young men who qualify as marriage material today. However, decent men still exist. Keep these 10 qualities in mind when looking for Mr. Right, so you don't lose sight of him:
Strong moral code
A man who abides by a moral code is definitely a keeper. He is the type of man who knows the difference between right and wrong. He always grounds his decisions in life on an understanding of a high moral ground. A man who prides himself in morality and becomes your future husband will definitely instill moral values in your children.
Good relationship with his family
A man who has a close and loving relationship with his family is a man you want to be with. This type of man knows the importance of family and truly cherishes family time. He will most likely place great importance on family after he marries you and begins to raise a family with you. Also, a man who treats his mother with respect will most likely treat you with respect and is obviously worth having as a husband.
Understands the sanctity of marriage
A man who is marriage material truly understands the real purpose and importance of marriage. He will most likely uphold a life-long commitment of fidelity and love to you and the children that will potentially result from your marriage. Since cohabitation and the hookup culture have now become norms in our society, you don't want to miss out on being with a man who wants to pursue a life-long marriage with you.
Respects human life
Ladies, a man who values the sanctity of human life from womb to tomb is not only worth swooning over, but also makes for a great husband. A man who knows that human life is precious will be more open to welcoming children into the world after you get married. He will also do his best to ensure that the elderly in your family are cared for, protected, and live their life to the fullest.
Hard work ethic
A man who has a hard work ethic is marriage material. He will never give up when working towards his ambitions. He will always work hard to provide your future family financial support, no matter what circumstances come his way. He will also instill this same value in your future children. A man stricken with a case of the "entitlement mentality" is not a great catch for your future anyways.
Shared life goals
A man who shares similar life goals with you will make for a great husband. Sharing that similarity with you, he will most likely support your efforts in life. He will always be there to comfort you when you hit your lows and rejoice with you when you achieve your goals. Walking along the same trajectory in life, you both will most likely maintain a strong marriage, despite any setbacks you may face.
Honors your femininity
A man who recognizes your beauty, inside and out, and honors your femininity is worth keeping. He will respect you as a woman and have a better understanding of your purpose in your marriage. He will value you completely, not only for your physical appearance or features. A man who cherishes this quality in a woman will also teach his daughters to maintain their femininity and self-worth as they get older.
A man who puts others before himself and gives a helping hand to those in need is a man you should not overlook. A man who values selflessness will most likely be a loving, supportive husband and father. When he becomes your husband, he will also encourage your children to be charitable towards others in your community. A man who has a heart for humanity is a man you want to be with for the rest of your life.
A man who is faithful not only to you, but also to God, will make for a great husband. This type of man will value and uphold the vows he made to you on your wedding day. He will also value your importance in his life as his wife and the mother to his children. His faithfulness to you will also underlie the steps he takes to keep your marriage stable for your children. In addition, a God-fearing man will let God unify and strengthen your relationship, will highly prioritize your marriage, and will make sure morals form the foundation of your family.
Knows his purpose in life
A man who knows his purpose in life is a man worth marrying. He will remain confident while pursuing his life's goals and what drives his soul. Because he knows his purpose, he will probably be more career-driven, despite any shortcomings he may face. Since he has this quality, he will continue to be an inspirational force in your life after you two are married.
Yes, good men are becoming more scarce in America, but know in your heart that there is a man out there in our generation who would love to make you his wife one day. Likewise, he has a similar plight--finding a young lady to marry who cherishes her femininity, does not conform to our morally decayed culture, and is not swayed by the false promises of third-wave feminism.
A decent man that you want to share a beautiful marriage with is out there. Although he may not be easy to spot, he will come and sweep you off your feet when you least expect it. Just make sure that he has these 10 qualities, so you know you two are meant to be.
Anna Maria Hoffman
explains why "The Vagina Monologues" degrades women and should not be promoted to raise awareness against sexual violence.
Song clips, from Beyoncé's "Run the World (Girls)", are sung by Anna Maria herself!
Spread the counter-cultured love!
Where do I even begin?
On March 1, ABC’s “Nightline” did a segment
on male porn star “James Deen,” who, according to ABC, has quite the following of underage girls
. Reporter Cecilia Vega stated about the fans, “some of them so young we couldn't even interview them on camera. Their parents had no idea that secretly they have a crush on a porn star. It is a phenomenon that not even the man at the center of it fully understands, but it's one that he fully defends.”
How lovely …
The interview with Deen was disturbing enough. He told ABC how he had first been exposed to pornography when he was in fourth grade, but he had known since kindergarten that he wanted to be a porn star.
But the way ABC dealt with this issue is even more disturbing. They said NOTHING to challenge him when he talked about DMing on twitter with underage girls “on accident.”
Um … what?
In the Twitter-sphere, BOTH parties must be following each other in order to send messages to one another. And a 15-year-old’s Twitter feed will reflect her age. Come on now, if twitter had been around when I was 15, my feed would look COMPLETELY different than it does now. It’s inappropriate that Deen is following back ANY girls that are under the age of 18, not to mention DMing them. This is statutory rape just waiting to happen.
“Nightline” essentially promoted a male porn star that enjoys his underage following. What? This is a main stream media outlet?
ABC even interviewed a few of Deen’s fans. These girls said they liked him because he seemed approachable to them, and they could totally see them talking to him at a coffee shop … that is, when he’s not getting paid to have sex with multiple women.
Deen’s advice at the end of the segment to his underage fans? “Turn 18 and buy porn.” That's exactly the kind of advice parents want the evening news to be giving their children. The sad part is that through ABC’s positive portrayal of Deen, they exposed a whole bunch of new kids to this filth. Parents shouldn’t have to worry about what news shows might be exposing their children to. This segment is despicable.
by Liz Thatcher
Jezebel may have outdone themselves this time. In a Feb. 6 blog titled “What’s the Best Age to Have an Abortion
” blogger Erin Gloria Ryan pontificates the pros and cons of getting an abortion at different ages. Her conclusion on the best age? “Taking into account access, ability to keep life plans intact, affordability, and likely relationship status, it's 25.”
Oh, well that’s great to know!
In the discussion of pros and cons of teenagers under 18 getting abortions, Ms. Ryan stated that it could be hard because “kids still living under their religious parents' roof may have some Bachmannian hang ups about when life begins and how totally damned they'd be if they ended their pregnancies.” Ironically enough, Salon.com, another liberal rag, published an article on the 40th anniversary of Roe vs. Wade titled “So What if Abortion Ends Life?
” In this article, Mary Elizabeth Williams argued that feminists can’t continue to pretend that pregnancy isn’t a life if it was unplanned or you don’t desire a child. “Fetuses aren’t selective like that. They don’t qualify as human life only if they’re intended to be born.”
Apparently Jezebel missed this [equally atrocious, yet honest] article.
Don’t worry, it gets worse.
The only con listed for the age range of 18-23 is simply the “cost, access, you can't use your parents' insurance because they'll know.” Never mind the fact that you are taking the life of a child … oh wait, silly me. Jezebel is full of feminists that deny the science of life at conception. But it's totes cool to lie or hide the fact that you got an abortion from your parents ... even though it is a risky
medical procedure. How irresponsible can these women get?
In the 27-30 age range, a pro of getting an abortion was “if you saved up a little, you could probably afford a designer abortion. A Marc Jacobs abortion, in teal.” Feminists always know how to keep it classy!
If you’ll recall, Jezebel was the site that had the freak out session
on the 40th anniversary of Roe vs. Wade because they feared that states were shutting down women’s rights to have abortions whenever the heck they felt like it, and attacked Norma McCorvey, the infamous Jane Roe and plaintiff in their sacred court case.
With garbage like this, is it any wonder that pro-choicers are losing ground?