Most psychologists, when analyzing their patient with a mental health issue, will begin by unveiling their relationship with their parents. More often than not, their disability, their struggle is in direct result towards a marred history with their parents.
The growing trend in our society follows a very backward view of family. It is acceptable to have children out of wedlock. If you find yourself pregnant and you would rather not have to deal with that ‘burden’—easy solution: abort the child. Divorce is as simple as 1-2-3.
Here’s the problem. The family is collapsing. Look around. What are the growing trends?
- This year marks the first time in U.S. history in which more babies are born out of wedlock than in marriage.
- More than half of births to American women younger than 30 are outside marriage.
- Fifty years ago, a third of American marriages were sparked by a pregnancy. In the mid-1990s, a third of Americans were born outside marriage.
- Now, it is 41 percent and 53 percent for children born to women under 30.
- 79% percent of African-Americans are born out of wedlock.
- 51% of Hispanics are born out of wedlock.
- 29% of Whites are born out of wedlock.
Not if these factors were in direct result with one of America’s greatest looming problems: poverty.
According to the U.S. Census, the poverty rate for single parents with children in the United States in 2009 was 37.1 percent. The rate for married couples with children was 6.8 percent. Being raised in a married family reduced a child’s probability of living in poverty by about 82 percent.
"Marriage has become a luxury good," Frank Furstenberg, a sociologist at the University of Pennsylvania.
Marriage is the cure for poverty, not welfare. Marriage excels one’s ability to succeed. Welfare places you in bonds. Marriage teaches you responsibility. Welfare breads dependence.
Looking back, I couldn’t have asked for a better family. Two parents who loved each other, wanted the best for their family, and did all they could to show their affection for one another. But trust me; it was not all fun in my household. Discipline was tough. They taught me how to work. My dad was one to give me a shovel and tell me to dig a hole, usually without help. Often times, I got irritated and frustrated. It was not easy. It certainly was not fun. I wasn’t handed success. I wasn’t promised pleasure. I had to earn it.
But today, I have all the respect and gratitude for the way I was raised. I have been taught right from wrong. Character has been tested. Failure has often dominated. But as result, I am now ready to face a world of opportunity, by taking on the grips of success through personal responsibility and integrity.
You see, the importance of family is the development of character. A healthy family teaches responsibility, ethics, morality, integrity, love, and selflessness. Without these attributes, a society bleeds from the inside out.
The decline of the family will inevitably result in the end of our republic.
We can build our US military to untouchable levels, but if we remain ignorant towards the societal threat of a failing family, this nation will destroy itself.