On the fifth day of Sex Week my true love gave to me - something much more scandalous than 5 golden rings. Today, at the University of Chicago, students can choose between 13 panels, including “Anal 101,” “Sex Work 101,” and “Consent for All Flavors.” 

At 6 PM, 4 “sex workers” will speak on “street work, escorting, webcam, porn, and more.” When Obama promised more jobs with a “living wage,” I wonder if this is what he meant. I know we have a tough jobs market right now, but do we really want porn stars as role models?

Unfortunately, this isn’t limited to the University of Chicago: Sex Week is a national phenomenon. Washington University in St. Louis, Missouri just hosted “A Night with the Stars: Life, Love, and Sex in the Workplace.” Adult film stars are sharing their wisdom all across the country.

And what better time to pick than... the first week of Lent? Or is it the week after the State of the Union? Can we celebrate Lincoln’s birthday with a panel about “Sex on the Big Screen,” or “Gender Norms and Me?”

Don’t worry, ladies and gentlemen, these educational programs are “neutral.” By that, I mean they don’t implicitly carry the message that sex is hip, fun, or casual. They don’t imply that - well, you should be doing it. They don’t carry any of that stuffy old “importance” that our grandparents told us about.

Never mind that older men usually reap the benefits of this cultural change. “Sugar daddies” are increasing around the country. Don’t worry - it’s totally consensual, they assure us - not prostitution at all.

The costs of college are higher than ever. As NBC San Diego reported, seekingarrangement.com allows women to “sign up to find a “Sugar Daddy” to pay for their tuition.” Some women get “practically a full ride.”

Lovely Phillips, a college junior and confessed “sugar baby,” lives the high life - buying the latest fashions, eating at expensive restaurants, and shopping between classes. Between wearing her full-length mink coats and driving her new Mercedes, she found time to tell the New York Daily News “older gentlemen are more attractive because there’s not much of an issue with finances and maturity.”

My father always told me that older men benefit the most from sex education. I didn’t believe him at first, but now I think he’s on to something.

Sex ed changes the thinking about sex - it teaches people to accept any form of “sexual expression” as legitimate. It opens up younger women’s options, but doesn’t necessarily help romance. Instead, it allows more already established men to take advantage of their freedom and naiveté. 

Sure, the young lady benefits tremendously, but again, is this the sort of society we want to be encouraging? With an aging population possessing most of the wealth, and high levels of youth unemployment, this sad trend may just represent an economic arrangement suitable to all parties - except younger men, of course.

This is where sexual liberation breaks down - in attempts for equality. Ironically, the stuffy old “marriage culture” of our remote ancestors did one thing we are increasingly unable to do: offer sexual options for everyone.

What do I mean? Well, it’s simple enough. You know those jocks in high school, who got all the girls? And the cheerleaders who slept with them? Yes, they’re what we might call the “sexual 1%,” the elites who will always get laid, regardless of social climate.

But they’re not the only ones out there. The sexual 99% also want some action, but they typically want it with the sexual 1%. This is why pornography is so popular - it allows men (and a few women) the illusion of sexual mobility. If a guy can’t sleep with Angelina Jolie, he can at least watch a girl nearly as beautiful (though perhaps photoshopped) and imagine himself in the sac.

Unfortunately, this ensures the minimum amount of sex. When everyone’s fantasizing about doing it with a celebrity, fewer people are coupling up with people on their level and enjoying one another to their fullest extent.

This is why marriage has historically been the best solution. For both men and women in the “sexual 99%” marriage limits their partner options, but expands the action they get over a lifetime. Further, because they couple up, they will learn how to please that other person, and be held accountable for a stable relationship.

Yes, marriage has its faults. Men and women are abused by those closest to them. Yet, as Winston Churchill said of Democracy, so we might say of marriage, that it is the worst possible form of government, except for all the others.

Does sex ed necessarily detract from marriage? No. But the way it is taught today - with an emphasis on “options” and “sex work” and “gender neutrality” tends to get people thinking along a liberationist mindset which is hurtful to everyone - but most painful for the poor (or their sexual equivalents).

For the sake of the younger men, for the sake of abused younger women, for the sake of those in the sexual 99%, we must oppose this form of sex ed. It is unhealthy and promotes inequality. 

Valentine’s Day is named for Saint Valentine - a man who never got married. But he did take a vow - a pledge of celibacy. His holiday is the holiday for vows, for lifelong commitment and partnership - for true love.

It is for couples, not “sex workers.”

Anna Maria's latest vlog exposes slut shaming as an attack on women who choose to uphold modesty and who are tired of the false promises of the hookup culture.

Song clip, sung by Anna Maria herself, is from Alicia Key's "A Woman's Worth."  

Enjoy!

"Self-Worth and the Hookup Culture" addresses young women about the dangers of the hookup culture, the importance of their self-worth, and why they should dress modestly to attract the man of their dreams.

Featured song clips are from Kelly Clarkson's "I Do Not Hook Up" and Rebecca Ferguson's "Teach Me How to Be Loved", sung by Anna Maria herself.

As we go about our lives, there is something happening around us that is not deemed “newsworthy” or “important” by many people. It’s toxic, troubling, and traumatic. It’s happening on college campuses. It’s happening next door to you. It’s the elephant in the room that everybody notices, but does not want to address for countless reasons. It’s what our generation praises and feels empowered by, but refuses to let their parents know about. And shockingly enough, it’s happening at conservative conferences thanks to people who do not  practice what they preach.

So what is it? It’s the hookup culture. For too long, it has been discarded and discounted as a criticism of “crazy social conservative Puritans” who are intolerant of “privacy” and not accepting of “free love.” Even on our side of the political fence, supposed “conservatives” have called it “inevitable” and have accepted it, even if they claim to be religious.

So if this is not “newsworthy,” why bother addressing it? Well, it is newsworthy, because it is always daily news for most college students. And guess what? It’s affecting everybody in our generation, because it is ruining the potential for life-long love that we all aspire to have. With each hookup a person experiences, a little piece of their heart metaphorically chips off, which leaves them more prone to divorce in the future. Sounds like romantic, sappy love from The Notebook, eh?

A study from Princeton University found that before hooking up, “girls expect emotional involvement almost twice as often as guys” and “guys…are in part motivated by hopes of improving their social reputation, or of bragging about their exploits to friends the next day.” After hooking up, the study found that 91% of girls regretted it.

As psychiatrist Dr. Miriam Grossman points out, female college students are emotionally drained from a hookup due to high oxytocin levels. Generally, oxytocin is released during sexual intercourse to promote attachment. Its impact, Dr. Grossman points out, explains why female college students easily ignore “partner’s faults, and…take risks [they] otherwise wouldn’t.” As a result, female college students who engage in the hookup culture easily find themselves longing for a relationship with the random guy that used them for sex last night.

Seeing how the hookup culture is responsible for the rise of STD’s and psychological distress, why would any young person want to suffer from such awful repercussions? Both the breakdown of the family unit and the influence of raging moral relativists explain why many young people find the hookup culture to be “fun” and “liberating.”

The breakdown of the family unit has created a common situation in which young people are disconnected from their parents and thus rebel against them. By choosing to hook up with random strangers, young people are essentially trying to find love in others that was absent in their households. This explains, for example, why young women who have divorced parents are more likely to hookup in college than young women who have married parents and intact families.     

The impact that moral relativists have had on our culture since the 1960’s is also responsible for this new devastating sexual revolution. By influencing young women through campus Women’s Centers, leftists have legitimized the prominence of casual sex as the new norm. By creating shows like Jersey Shore and The Real World, leftists have influenced young people to liberate themselves from “evil Judeo-Christian values” that are part of our nation’s foundation.

Since the hookup culture has been perpetuated by the Left, why, you may ask, would it be connected with conservative conferences like CPAC? Aren’t these conferences free from such? Plenty of young women who call themselves “conservative” attend CPAC boasting the latest pair of hooker heels and short skirts, hoping to go home with a lovely stranger later in the night. And the worse part of it all is when they claim to be religious and have a cross necklace paired with a revealing blouse. Likewise, there are plenty of young men who are equally guilty for partaking in such behavior as well.

Why should these young women and men be let off the hook? Aren’t they just as guilty as the liberal young women and men who love hooking up? Instead of dismissing their actions, these people should be held accountable and be exposed for their faux “conservative values.” Being conservative is not about picking and choosing what to believe in. Being conservative means practicing and preaching all of its principles, including its core traditional values.  

As the next generation of future parents, we must stop this toxic culture from further ruining the potential for life-long love that we all desire in life. It’s time to talk about the elephant that is plaguing college campuses and is responsible for devastating the lives of many young men and women. If Kelly Clarkson was able to condemn the hookup culture, so could we.