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As we go about our lives, there is something happening around us that is not deemed “newsworthy” or “important” by many people. It’s toxic, troubling, and traumatic. It’s happening on college campuses. It’s happening next door to you. It’s the elephant in the room that everybody notices, but does not want to address for countless reasons. It’s what our generation praises and feels empowered by, but refuses to let their parents know about. And shockingly enough, it’s happening at conservative conferences thanks to people who do not  practice what they preach.

So what is it? It’s the hookup culture. For too long, it has been discarded and discounted as a criticism of “crazy social conservative Puritans” who are intolerant of “privacy” and not accepting of “free love.” Even on our side of the political fence, supposed “conservatives” have called it “inevitable” and have accepted it, even if they claim to be religious.

So if this is not “newsworthy,” why bother addressing it? Well, it is newsworthy, because it is always daily news for most college students. And guess what? It’s affecting everybody in our generation, because it is ruining the potential for life-long love that we all aspire to have. With each hookup a person experiences, a little piece of their heart metaphorically chips off, which leaves them more prone to divorce in the future. Sounds like romantic, sappy love from The Notebook, eh?

A study from Princeton University found that before hooking up, “girls expect emotional involvement almost twice as often as guys” and “guys…are in part motivated by hopes of improving their social reputation, or of bragging about their exploits to friends the next day.” After hooking up, the study found that 91% of girls regretted it.

As psychiatrist Dr. Miriam Grossman points out, female college students are emotionally drained from a hookup due to high oxytocin levels. Generally, oxytocin is released during sexual intercourse to promote attachment. Its impact, Dr. Grossman points out, explains why female college students easily ignore “partner’s faults, and…take risks [they] otherwise wouldn’t.” As a result, female college students who engage in the hookup culture easily find themselves longing for a relationship with the random guy that used them for sex last night.

Seeing how the hookup culture is responsible for the rise of STD’s and psychological distress, why would any young person want to suffer from such awful repercussions? Both the breakdown of the family unit and the influence of raging moral relativists explain why many young people find the hookup culture to be “fun” and “liberating.”

The breakdown of the family unit has created a common situation in which young people are disconnected from their parents and thus rebel against them. By choosing to hook up with random strangers, young people are essentially trying to find love in others that was absent in their households. This explains, for example, why young women who have divorced parents are more likely to hookup in college than young women who have married parents and intact families.     

The impact that moral relativists have had on our culture since the 1960’s is also responsible for this new devastating sexual revolution. By influencing young women through campus Women’s Centers, leftists have legitimized the prominence of casual sex as the new norm. By creating shows like Jersey Shore and The Real World, leftists have influenced young people to liberate themselves from “evil Judeo-Christian values” that are part of our nation’s foundation.

Since the hookup culture has been perpetuated by the Left, why, you may ask, would it be connected with conservative conferences like CPAC? Aren’t these conferences free from such? Plenty of young women who call themselves “conservative” attend CPAC boasting the latest pair of hooker heels and short skirts, hoping to go home with a lovely stranger later in the night. And the worse part of it all is when they claim to be religious and have a cross necklace paired with a revealing blouse. Likewise, there are plenty of young men who are equally guilty for partaking in such behavior as well.

Why should these young women and men be let off the hook? Aren’t they just as guilty as the liberal young women and men who love hooking up? Instead of dismissing their actions, these people should be held accountable and be exposed for their faux “conservative values.” Being conservative is not about picking and choosing what to believe in. Being conservative means practicing and preaching all of its principles, including its core traditional values.  

As the next generation of future parents, we must stop this toxic culture from further ruining the potential for life-long love that we all desire in life. It’s time to talk about the elephant that is plaguing college campuses and is responsible for devastating the lives of many young men and women. If Kelly Clarkson was able to condemn the hookup culture, so could we.

 


Comments

Cathryn
09/24/2012 9:07am

Yes, Anna Maria, you are absolutely right. It is exactly what it is and as you have so eloquentely detailed.
However, if you want to really make a rippling impact throughout the nation

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WJGBalderama
09/24/2012 10:56am

Your maturity belies your age. We need more of you out there - conservatives with strong moral anchor.

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Joshua Tienda
09/24/2012 11:23am

Truly stated. As a social conservation I have always beleived that the worst thing that could have happened to this nation and the young people is the counter-culture movement of the sixties. Rebelling againts traditional values ad morals was a disaterous mistake, We have remove the fences that were meant for our protection and now we are facing the consequences. It sad to see the objectefecation that goes in our culture. Its even mroe sad that those who called themselves christians are giving in and dressing in such immodest behaviour. If we are going to turn this situation around there is needs to a group of our generation who stands for moral values and lives by them.

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09/26/2012 6:03pm

Brilliantly written and extremely coherent

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J
09/27/2012 9:20am

Have there been studies done that back up your argument? I find it silly to assume people who go around "boasting hooker heels and short skirts" are less likely to be dedicated to a lifelong relationship at some point. I also do not believe there is a causal relationship between the hookup culture and the divorce rate. I believe the true breakdown of marriage is generated elsewhere. The reasons: short dating period before marriage, marrying just to get married and have that status even if not truly happy with the spouse, and greed/money.

Hating on people's fashion choices seems juvenile to me (implying they are hookers), and especially not very Christ-like. Its a mindset that lends itself to judging other people without even knowing them.

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Cind Surp
10/02/2012 2:43pm

Believe what you want, but here is the first study I found showing research backing up the claim that premarital sex increases "marriage disruption": Premarital Sex and the Risk of Divorce
Joan R. Kahn and Kathryn A. London
Journal of Marriage and Family
Vol. 53, No. 4 (Nov., 1991), pp. 845-855
Published by: National Council on Family Relations
Article Stable URL: http://www.jstor.org/stable/352992

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