At 6 PM, 4 “sex workers” will speak on “street work, escorting, webcam, porn, and more.” When Obama promised more jobs with a “living wage,” I wonder if this is what he meant. I know we have a tough jobs market right now, but do we really want porn stars as role models?
Unfortunately, this isn’t limited to the University of Chicago: Sex Week is a national phenomenon. Washington University in St. Louis, Missouri just hosted “A Night with the Stars: Life, Love, and Sex in the Workplace.” Adult film stars are sharing their wisdom all across the country.
And what better time to pick than... the first week of Lent? Or is it the week after the State of the Union? Can we celebrate Lincoln’s birthday with a panel about “Sex on the Big Screen,” or “Gender Norms and Me?”
Don’t worry, ladies and gentlemen, these educational programs are “neutral.” By that, I mean they don’t implicitly carry the message that sex is hip, fun, or casual. They don’t imply that - well, you should be doing it. They don’t carry any of that stuffy old “importance” that our grandparents told us about.
Never mind that older men usually reap the benefits of this cultural change. “Sugar daddies” are increasing around the country. Don’t worry - it’s totally consensual, they assure us - not prostitution at all.
The costs of college are higher than ever. As NBC San Diego reported, seekingarrangement.com allows women to “sign up to find a “Sugar Daddy” to pay for their tuition.” Some women get “practically a full ride.”
Lovely Phillips, a college junior and confessed “sugar baby,” lives the high life - buying the latest fashions, eating at expensive restaurants, and shopping between classes. Between wearing her full-length mink coats and driving her new Mercedes, she found time to tell the New York Daily News “older gentlemen are more attractive because there’s not much of an issue with finances and maturity.”
My father always told me that older men benefit the most from sex education. I didn’t believe him at first, but now I think he’s on to something.
Sex ed changes the thinking about sex - it teaches people to accept any form of “sexual expression” as legitimate. It opens up younger women’s options, but doesn’t necessarily help romance. Instead, it allows more already established men to take advantage of their freedom and naiveté.
Sure, the young lady benefits tremendously, but again, is this the sort of society we want to be encouraging? With an aging population possessing most of the wealth, and high levels of youth unemployment, this sad trend may just represent an economic arrangement suitable to all parties - except younger men, of course.
This is where sexual liberation breaks down - in attempts for equality. Ironically, the stuffy old “marriage culture” of our remote ancestors did one thing we are increasingly unable to do: offer sexual options for everyone.
What do I mean? Well, it’s simple enough. You know those jocks in high school, who got all the girls? And the cheerleaders who slept with them? Yes, they’re what we might call the “sexual 1%,” the elites who will always get laid, regardless of social climate.
But they’re not the only ones out there. The sexual 99% also want some action, but they typically want it with the sexual 1%. This is why pornography is so popular - it allows men (and a few women) the illusion of sexual mobility. If a guy can’t sleep with Angelina Jolie, he can at least watch a girl nearly as beautiful (though perhaps photoshopped) and imagine himself in the sac.
Unfortunately, this ensures the minimum amount of sex. When everyone’s fantasizing about doing it with a celebrity, fewer people are coupling up with people on their level and enjoying one another to their fullest extent.
This is why marriage has historically been the best solution. For both men and women in the “sexual 99%” marriage limits their partner options, but expands the action they get over a lifetime. Further, because they couple up, they will learn how to please that other person, and be held accountable for a stable relationship.
Yes, marriage has its faults. Men and women are abused by those closest to them. Yet, as Winston Churchill said of Democracy, so we might say of marriage, that it is the worst possible form of government, except for all the others.
Does sex ed necessarily detract from marriage? No. But the way it is taught today - with an emphasis on “options” and “sex work” and “gender neutrality” tends to get people thinking along a liberationist mindset which is hurtful to everyone - but most painful for the poor (or their sexual equivalents).
For the sake of the younger men, for the sake of abused younger women, for the sake of those in the sexual 99%, we must oppose this form of sex ed. It is unhealthy and promotes inequality.
Valentine’s Day is named for Saint Valentine - a man who never got married. But he did take a vow - a pledge of celibacy. His holiday is the holiday for vows, for lifelong commitment and partnership - for true love.
It is for couples, not “sex workers.”